7 Gaslighting Phrases That May Be Damaging Your Relationships

"You're crazy."

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“So and so thinks you’re crazy, too.”

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“It didn’t happen that way.”

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“That never happened.”

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“That’s not what I meant.”

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“If you cared about me, you would ___”

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"You always blow things out of proportion."

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